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7 Simple Reminders To Help You Live a More Delightful Life

February 2, 2019 by Vanessa Leave a Comment

Not all of our days feel delightful because of life’s demands and sometimes events take place that really try our emotions. But on average, it’s fair to say that most days are what we make them. My mission is to encourage you to make them a delightful as possible!

Getting the most out of my time on earth and living in the moment has been a goal of mine in the last several years. I hope that through this blog, my zest for life is contagious. You deserve to live your best life through delightful experiences with people, traveling to new places or simply adding actions to your day that thoughtfully and purposely add value.

To give you a jumpstart today, I’ve put together a short list of simple reminders to consider. How many of these experiences could positively affect you? Declare your life more delightful today. Think of the below checklist as a bucket list of sorts.

1. CAST AWAY YOUR CARES

Remember the last time someone asked you to join them on an adventure and you declined the invitation even though you could have joined them? Why did you choose that path? Instead of limiting your experiences because of your inhabitations or worries, take advantage of the opportunity to let someone else plan your experience. When your friends or loved ones invite you to travel, attend a local event or to a dinner party…SAY YES.

Casting away your cares means that you’re not overthinking the invitation but acknowledging that you’re trusting someone else to help make your life more delightful.

2. PUSH YOURSELF AND GO IT ALONE

On the flip side, sometimes you have to invite yourself to try a new experience when no one else is suggesting one for you. There are times when it seems like everyone is busy with life’s demands and they’re unavailable to you. That’s okay! Plan your own fun.

When was the last time you gave in to your desire to spoil yourself? It’s not selfish. It’s self-preservation. If you really want to see a blockbuster movie but no one is available to go with you, go alone. Feel like trying the new ramen restaurant in your city, but others don’t share your adventurous palette? Who cares! Get in your car and head to the restaurant. Push on.

3. CHANGE YOUR LOCATION

Life’s routines of taking care of a household and going to work can sometimes bring on the feeling of monotony, a feeling that my spirit tries to fight at every chance. Perhaps that’s why I’ve lived in more than one state and worked in many professions. Can you relate to wanting to change your location? What’s stopping you?

Your well-being is often dependent on thrusting your endorphins into overdrive. If you’ve got a serious case of wanderlust and need to travel to a new locale, seize the opportunity. Feeling less than yourself at work? If those feelings are a result of not fulfilling your career goals, then maybe changing where you work is just as important as the work you do. Change your location and you open up a world of possibilities.

4. HONOR YOUR CURIOSITY

There is real value in allowing yourself to find the answers to many of life’s questions. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to introduce yourself to someone who is obviously different than yourself? Have you always wanted to learn a new hobby or develop your career skill set? Sign up to take a class!

Honoring your curiosity keeps your brain active and helps you from just experiencing life as it comes along. What could you discover about yourself today?

5. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH YOUR FAVES

You know I’m a big fan of self-care and often that includes surrounding yourself with things that you love and people that you love to be around. When you cater to your desire to enjoy things (or people) that you know make you happy, you are fueling your spirit. Think of three of our favorites right now. Make strides to include them in your day.

6. IMMERSE YOURSELF

To truly take advantage of life, I believe you must be aware of all of your senses. For example, when I traveled to an award-winning art gallery last year, I let myself wander alone in their outdoor gardens. I smelled the fresh herbs, reached out for a fluttering butterfly, brushed up against towering botanicals, listened to the drip of a waterfall and captured it all on my camera to enjoy again later.

Try to remind yourself to be present in the moment and immerse yourself in the experience.

7. LIVE IN THE MOMENT

Sometimes it’s hard to turn off our busy thoughts. Like most people, I have to sometimes remind myself to live in the moment and not plan for the next one or think of something I want to say. It takes practice and awareness, but in time you can also train yourself to focus.

While this post is more of a reminder list than a to-do list, I know it will help you make the most out of your experience and live more delightfully. Let me know how you plan to seize the day by commenting below!

Tulsa, Oklahoma’s “The Gathering Place:” A Park for Everyone

September 24, 2018 by Vanessa Leave a Comment

On a recent trip to Tulsa, Oklahoma we made it a priority to visit the city’s latest project “The Gathering Place,” a riverfront park built entirely from donation dollars. The mission for the park’s construction was to build a park that not only beautified the area but attracted diverse populations to positively interact with one another while enjoying the outdoors. Tulsa nailed it.

You can enter the interior of the park from all sides, which are well marked with signage.

The entirely free park sits on 66 acres near downtown Tulsa. Thanks to 80 corporate and philanthropic organizations, The Gathering Place was built with $400 million in donations starting in September 2014. The park opened to the public two years later.

We arrived just after the park opened (regular hours are 9am-10pm) and found a parking spot just outside the Chapman Adventure Playground, an interactive area devoted to children (and adults). Soon after our arrival we found ourselves immersed in the fun of the park. Every inch of the park provides a sensory experience!

Within the Adventure Playground there are areas devoted to testing your strength (and desire for fun) and teaching areas with interactive stations about nature. At one point, my boyfriend and I became so excited wandering around discovering new areas that we lost each other!

Speaking of the park’s vast size, I would recommend picking up a map or viewing the website prior to entering the park. Volunteers walking the park can give you one as well. If you don’t want to spend time climbing wooden fortresses or swinging from ginormous chairs next to giddy children, you should visit the other areas built with just adults in mind such as Peggy’s Pond or the restaurants.

You can climb to the top of multiple towers and look out on the park!

Looking out toward Peggy’s Pond. A relaxing space for adults to sit who are not with children.

As an adult, I think there’s something completely freeing and almost rebellious about living like a kid again. I took advantage of the opportunity to cross a suspended rope bridge that connected wooden castles, walked through the Mist Mountain, and explored the Sensory Garden with careless abandon and complete curiousity. Without any concern from time, I allowed myself to giggle inside a mirror maze and trample along the path beside man-made waterfalls. It was worth every moment.

Despite my crippling fear of heights, I crossed this rope suspension bridge! To be totally frank…I ran!

Parents toting children will enjoy interacting with their families and taking photos. We saw dozens of families snapping photos of kids playing joyfully at Swing Hill and areas like Slide Vale and Willow Beach. The backdrops for group photos are limitless.

Playing in the interactive water feature area of the park, one is easily reminded what it feels like to be a kid again.

After we took full advantage of the play areas, we walked to a glass enclosed, two-story ONEOK Boathouse located on Peggy’s Pond. Those interested in enjoying the water can check out paddle boats, kayaks and canoes from the lower level of the building. Although it wasn’t open yet, a fine dining restaurant called Vista at The Boathouse will offer affordable meals for all ages and provides alfresco patio seating on the second level.

You can check out canoes and kayaks free of charge at The Boathouse.

Later, we meandered our way to the oversized chairs on the dock of Peggy’s Pond. I could easily see myself enjoying a coffee while reading from this tranquil spot, if I had more time. While serene and beautiful, I wished we were there at night to view the daily light show that takes place at 9pm. The park’s designers have meticulously added rows of lights to illuminate the shore after dusk.

Bringing your pup? Dog owners should bear in mind that pups are not allowed inside the park unless it’s Wednesday. However, we several dozen dog owners walking along the trail along the Arkansas River just outside of the park. The concrete sidewalks are wide enough to allow for cyclists, runners, and dog walkers to co-exist easily.

Of course, dogs must be on a leash. Areas that don’t allow dogs are well marked.

At some point when we return to Tulsa, we’ll visit the park again since we didn’t see the entire area even after two hours. For me, I love that the park requires you to relinquish all sense of adult responsibilities and instantly gives you the feeling of pure freedom that comes from acting like a a kid again.

Interested in visiting? Plan your next trip here. If you have any questions about navigating the park or what else you can expect from your visit to The Gathering Place, ask me in the comments section below!

Want to see bonus photos and videos of the park? Check out my Instagram!

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The Power of Sharing Books: Little Free Library

May 29, 2018 by Vanessa Leave a Comment

Give a book. Take a book. Little Free Libraries are pop-up stands, located around cities, that contain books for people to donate books to, and if they need a book, take a book to read. It’s brilliant!

Have you seen a Little Free Library in your town? We have several in our city where stands are typically located near parks or civic organizations. I appreciate the thought behind the book kiosks because each one stands as a symbol for building community, a thoughtful ripple of pay-it-forward kindness. The book exchange concept is a fun way to donate books you no longer want and perhaps find a new book to read. Because it is free — everyone wins!

I dropped leftover classroom books off at two Little Free Libraries in my area. Inside each stand, I found deep shelves partially stocked with all genres of books from young adult literature to true crime dramas. Each library had plenty of room for me to add my donated books. All you have to do is open the front door of the library, place your book donations inside, and close the door. This act of kindness couldn’t be more simple!

Out of consideration of potential readers, your donated books should be in like new condition.

You can locate a book exchange location using this map! Don’t like the books within a Little Free Library, no problem! Simply located another kiosk in your area using the interactive map.

NOTE: If accompanying a child, you might need to help them open the door to a Little Free Library as they are built for an adult’s height.

Fun Fact: Little Free Libraries are also referred to as “mini-town squares.”

Want to learn more about starting a book exchange stand in your neighborhood? Interested in donating books on behalf of your kid’s scout troop or school? Learn more about Little Free Libraries here.

I would love to hear about your experience donating in your community! Please comment below to tell me about it!