So often, I read articles about how to pay it forward and be kind to others, something you know I appreciate.
However, we often neglect to be kind to ourselves. It’s like the airplane oxygen mask rule: put your own oxygen mask on first so you can assist others. If we’re not healthy and not taking care of ourselves, then we can’t present the world the best version of ourselves to aid others.
Why don’t we take time for ourselves?

It’s simple. We allow the world’s demands to distract us from turning the focus on ourselves. Of course, there are events in our lives that require us to act and live selflessly. That’s okay as long as we understand that life is a balance.
At the end of the day, we are no good to anyone else if we have nothing left to give.
When I take time for myself to relax, to learn, or to just be still — I’m a better person to those whom I connect with in the world. So, when was the last time you took an hour to give back to yourself?
20 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself
- Take a long shower or enjoy a hot bath. Relax.
- Prepare your favorite meal, even if it’s not what others want to eat for dinner.
- Use your vacation days from work. Americans don’t use provided vacation days, according to Forbes. Learn why.
- Subscribe to a delivery service like Stitch Fix or order your household supplies from Amazon. Give yourself a break from shopping!
- Go for the appetizer. You always turn down the restaurant server’s suggestion for a pre-meal bite. Stop denying yourself the queso!
- Upgrade your shoe game or wardrobe.
- Make an appointment for a massage or make-up application.
- Read a self-help book or an inspirational story.
- Meet a friend for lunch. Conversations with friends are vital to understanding oneself.
- Buy yourself flowers or a nice bottle of wine.
- Meditate.
- Go to bed an hour early every night for a week.
- Eat a nourishing breakfast.
- Yoga. Downward dog, anyone?
- Allow yourself free time for a hobby you’ve put on the back burner.
- Try an at-home facial.
- Gently rub your temples.
- Eliminate the feeling of being rushed in the morning before work. Pack your lunch the night before.
- Dedicate one evening every week to watching your favorite show or movie.
- Get a babysitter and take yourself on a date.
How have you taken time for yourself recently? Tell me in the comments section below.


Made with 19 Crimes Cabernet and Louisburg Mill Apple Cider, this recipe for Decadent Poached Pears takes a new twist on the typical poached pear recipe. Instead of adding orange juice, I used my favorite autumnal beverage, apple cider, which gives the pear glaze its rich flavor.
Bring the liquid to a rolling boil and then reduce the heat. Stir frequently.
Third, add the prepped pears to the pot. The heat should be turned to low right now.




Mom’s garden house is an extension of her own home. The interior’s neutral colors, off-set by the bright white counter tops and trimmed windows, includes various green hues from decorative additions and dark black metal pieces. Having collected many of the sitabouts over time, she decorates in a style more sophisticated than rustic farmhouse but less stuffy than classic traditional. She has an eclectic sense of design style that is uniquely her own.



Today, she still sees beauty in the colors of delicate flowers and enjoys the harvest of a vegetable or herb garden. Her accepted challenge each year is to learn about the needs of plant placement in her landscape while always attempting to attract birds, bees, and insects.




While I love the outdoors, I’m not a natural gardener. I struggle to keep plants alive. I either over or under water them. Completely forget about them. I never installed the proper drip system. Can a person’s “green thumb” be learned? Maybe I just wrote it off as “mom’s hobby.” I should have really paid more attention when helping her in the yard as a teen. Just last week I called her seeking advice about our sad rose bushes. Before I knew it, I was at her house on my hands and knees pruning her rose bushes while she used wood glue on the stem ends to prevent bores for invading them again. Glue? Who knew!
I’ve have so much to learn from her wisdom about nature, about plants and birds. As I mentioned before, I’m at best a wannabe gardener. In fact, I’ve killed so many house plants over the years that if there is every going to be any hope for me, I’m going to have to spend more time with mom in the garden house. If you’re more like me, you’ll appreciate a post she helped me write last summer
But not every day can be spent gardening. Sometimes the body needs a day of rest between the hours spent digging in unforgiving soil and pulling weeds away from flowers. On these days, she takes time to let her body relax but we all know she is still thinking about her next outdoor project.








